探戈是一种人际关系

探戈是一种亲密的体验。它涉及两个互相连接的人。它允许你的舞伴接触你，亲近你，享受你的身体，进入你的内心，聆听你心中的声音，感受你的情感和个性。事实上，在舞蹈中你的舞伴可以了解到你的很多方面。你怎样与他/她连接和沟通，怎样跳舞，怎样配合和适应他/她，反映出你身体，心理，教养，道德，艺术和品味各方面的许多素质。你的行为毫无保留地揭示出你是谁：精致或粗糙，乐感好坏，态度冷热，平静或急躁，优雅或拙笨，适应性强弱，谦让或专行，合作或自我，尊重或傲慢......这一切都在舞蹈中暴露出来。

探戈是一种人际关系。就象夫妻关系一样，舞伴的利益是相互关联，互相依赖的。只有当你表现得最好时，你才能使你的舞伴表现得最好。在探戈中，正如在任何人际关系中一样，自我是你最大的敌人。是自我让你以“我”为中心，傲慢，专行，僵化，急躁，粗暴和抗拒。只有当两人的行动和谐一致时，探戈才完全成为一种享受。你需要克服自我，委身于你的舞伴，聆听其内心的声音，顺应其意愿，让自己适应他/她，默默地配合他/她，发挥其优势，弥补其弱点，使其能充分享受跟你跳舞的舒适和快乐。如果你只顾自己而忽略你的舞伴，即使你能跳所有的花步和点缀，你的舞蹈也是失败的。毕竟，探戈是一种礼尚往来的社交活动。学习探戈远非只是学习舞步。它除了培养品味，增加修养和学习一种文化外，也是学习与另一个人成为一体。不幸的是，这个非常重要的方面却往往被人忽视了。

Tango Is a Relationship

Tango is an intimate experience. It allows your partner to touch you, enjoy your body, your comfortable embrace, complete surrender, tender leading, obedient following, loving protection, sensitive accommodation, and supportive complements. It also allows your partner to access, listen and feel the inner voice, feelings, emotions, expressions and personality of you. In fact, your partner can learn a lot about you in the dance. How you connect, move, communicate, respond and adapt tells a lot about the somatic, psychological, ethical, artistic and aesthetic qualities in you. The way you behave unreservedly reveals who you are: refined or crude, musical or dull, passionate or indifferent, calm or irascible, graceful or clumsy, adaptive or inflexible, yielding or controlling, cooperative or egocentric, respectful or arrogant… all are exposed in the dance.

Tango is a relationship. Just like in any relationship where the well beings of the two are mutually related and dependent on each other, you have to be and do your best in order to bring out the best of your partner. In tango, as in any relationship, your ego is your worst enemy. It’s the ego that makes you self-centered, arrogant, controlling, inflexible, irascible, rude, and counteractive. Tango is fully enjoyed only when the two partners act as one in complete unison and harmony. You need to let go your ego, submit yourself to your partner, listen to his/her inner voice, follow his/her intention, accommodate yourself to him/her, tacitly complement him/her to make up his/her weakness and bring out his/her strength, and let him/her feel totally comfortable and enjoyable dancing with you. If you only concentrate on yourself and neglect your partner, you will fail the dance even if you can do all the fancy steps and embellishments in the world. After all, tango is a social activity that requires good manner. Learning tango is much more than learning steps. It is, among other things, such as acquiring a taste, attitude, and culture, learning to be one with another person. Unfortunately, this very important perspective is often being neglected.