有人真的认为传统的阿根廷探戈在政治上是不正确的,而欧洲和北美的开式拥抱探戈是经过净化提纯,符合现代世界要求的探戈。我最近所读过的一本书表达了以下观点:
“在欧洲,人们的想法似乎是,舞蹈中的和谐是经由双方同意而实现的,男人和女人是平等的舞伴。然而,即使在今天,在布宜诺斯艾利斯,我得到的鲜明印象是,他们认为男人是在完全掌控中,每一个动作都是由男人领出来的,舞蹈的进展是一系列有效带领的后果......一个阿根廷探戈网站近期的一篇文章涉及到男人和女人之间的关系,它使用了‘女人对待委身的态度’这样的词语......我完全不能肯定这个观念在跟我跳舞的女人中会有多少人接受。我明白查看探戈历史上毫无疑问的大男子主义倾向可能有意思,或许从中也能对我们今天可以怎么跳舞得到一些启发。但我不乐意接受这个观念在现代世界中仍然是探戈的本质感觉。更吸引我的观点是,探戈是从一个幸运的,主要起源于欧洲的多元文化中演变出来的。探戈似乎在二十世纪二十年代在巴黎被输入精致文雅的血液。在我看来,它今天似乎又受益于欧洲各地在其手臂上注射的血液。探戈在这里发展迅速,并得到净化提纯以符合现代人际关系的要求。我相信它可能正在失去其狭隘的,甚至是地主义的风格,而在一个新的,更有凝聚力的欧洲人民手中变得真正国际化了。我们不是沮丧想家,困苦不堪,离家千里,寻求爱情,却只有太少女人能分享的欧洲人。我们是新世界中的新人类。虽然我们作为个人带入舞蹈的激情是与所有的男人和女人从起初就共享的基本感受相同的,其强度却必然不同,而最重要的是,两性之间的平衡已经改变了。也可能在欧洲,我们的社会是在以与拉丁美洲不同的速度发展,虽然我想不是朝着不同的方向。今天的欧洲妇女有着极大的权力,地位和影响力,而且她们把自己的需要很清楚地表达出来。现代欧洲妇女对大男子主义态度是不会有太正面的反应的......女人似乎喜欢自己的男人有自信,但又希望他们细腻体贴。女人痛恨被人欺负。她们喜欢被人邀请,并想感觉到是否按自己的意愿接受或拒绝是在她们自己的完全控制中。接受邀请并不是‘委身'......当你想到很久以前,在二十世纪初期,渴望被女人触摸的粗俗男人在妓院里跳探戈舞,男女亲密是他们那时所做的交易。开式拥抱是对探戈进行“消毒”以使它适合更文雅的人士和更广大的观众而发展起来的。”
作者对他显然不太了解的事所持的那种优越态度是荒唐可笑的。传统探戈不是欺负人。开式探戈也不尽温文尔雅。认为跳闭式探戈的人比跳开式探戈的人肮脏而缺乏文明的观点是荒谬和虚伪的。
然而,让我更担忧的是他的平等观念。我恐怕它确实反映了欧洲和北美一些人对传统探戈所持的偏见和把探戈改变为一个中性舞蹈的企图。我们为那些对自己的性别取向不安的人争取权利,这是应该的,因为他们也是人。但我们大多数人对自己的性别没有问题。我所知道的大多数男人对他们的男性特征和阳刚之气感到自豪。他们的行为,功能和舞蹈象男人。我所知道的大多数女人为她们的女性特征和女人味感到骄傲。她们的行为,功能和舞蹈象女人。男人和女人彼此平等并相互吸引,因为他们是他们所是。他们互相欣赏,互相珍惜,互相需要,相得益彰。女人生育和照顾后代。男人保护,并为他们提供。两性在生活和舞蹈中扮演不同的角色,这没有人,尤其是现代男女,应该感到羞愧。真正的现代人不认为女人需要表现得象男人一样才与男人平等。她们可以是女人,而仍然与男人平等。真正的现代的人相信男性和女性的关系是以爱为基础的,而不是以权力为基础的。他们不认为异性之间的纯洁亲密是污秽的。他们也不对人持沙文主义的态度,特别是对一个人民,其艺术他们深深受益,而其文化他们可能还未完全理解。
正如我在另一篇文章中所说,“探戈的精髓是欢迎别人进入你的个人空间,接受那个人,向他委身,放弃你的自我,倾听那人内心的声音和感受,做个体贴,合作,谦让,顺应的人,享受两人间的亲
密,与他/她合而为一,并给他/她以安慰,快乐和爱。这与我们的文化所代表的观念,即个人主义,独立性,自我利益,敌对好斗,是不同的。”(《爱的艺术》)与作者所认为的恰恰相反,探戈中的委身是相互的。只有在委身中我们才停止竞争而开始彼此适应。探戈在现代世界中深受欢迎是因为它有使人升华的力量。它使我们完整,让我们能在一种亲密关系中与对方成为一体,而免遭属于上个世纪的论断指责。探戈是与虚伪相反的。在探戈中我们变成更美好,更健康,更自然,更融洽的男性和女性。那些倾向于“政治上正确”而不是正当的人性,性别中性化而不是性别解放,权力斗争而不是爱,分离而不是融合,疏远而不是亲密,傲慢而不是谦卑,个人表现而不是伙伴关系的人生活在过去的阴影中。他们是在以与拉丁美洲不同的速度发展,而且不是象作者所认为的那样朝着同一个方向。他们当然不代表探戈的未来。
Tango and Gender Equality
There are people who actually think that the traditional tango of Argentina is politically incorrect, and the open-embrace tango of Europe and North America is the distilled and sanitized version of tango that meets the requirements of the modern world. A book I read recently expressed the following opinion:
“In Europe, the idea seems to be that harmony in dance is arrived at by mutual consent and that men and women are equal partners. I get the distinct impression, however, that even today, in Buenos Aires, the idea is that the man is in complete control; every action has its lead and the progress of the dance is a series of well-established consequences… A recent article from a tango web site in Argentina touched on the relationship between the man and the woman. It used the phrase ‘The woman’s attitude of surrender’… I am not at all sure this notion would find much acceptability with the women I dance with. I can see how it might be interesting to look at the undoubtedly macho flavour in history of tango and perhaps derive some ideas from it for our dance-play today. I am less happy to accept this idea as the essential feeling of tango in the modern world. I am more attracted to the idea that tango evolved out of a lucky fusion of multiple cultures, mostly European in origin. It seems that it received a transfusion of refinement in Paris in the 1920s, and it looks to me as if it is benefiting today from another shot in the arm all over Europe. Tango is growing apace here and is being distilled to meet the requirements of today’s relationships. I believe it may be losing its narrow, even parochial feel and is becoming truly international in the hands of a new and more cohesive European people. We are not frustrated, homesick, stressed Europeans, seeking love miles from home with too few women to share. We are a new breed in a new world. Though the passions we bring as individuals to the dance will be the same basic feelings all men and women have shared since the beginning of time, the intensity must be different, and the balance between the sexes has altered most of all. It may also be the case that our societies in Europe are evolving at a different pace from that of Latin America, though not, I suspect, in a different direction. In the Europe today women have immense power, status and influence and they express their needs very clearly. The modern European woman is unlikely to respond too positively to macho posturing… It seems women like their men to be positive but they also want finesse and thoughtfulness. Women hate to be bullied. They prefer to be invited and to feel that they are in full control to accept, or decline, as they feel. Accepting an invitation is not ‘surrender' (See How Tango Is Led)... When you think about tango being danced way back at the beginning of the 20th century by earthy men in bordellos, hungry for a woman’s touch, closeness between a man and a woman was the business they were in. It was in the ‘sanitising’ of tango for the more genteel public and the wider world audience that the open embrace evolved.”
The author’s attitude of superiority toward something he apparently has little understanding is absurd. The traditional tango is not bullying. Neither is the open embrace tango all genteel. To suggest that people who dance in close embrace are somewhat dirty and less civilized than those who dance in open embrace is ridiculous and hypocritical.
What concerns me most, however, is his view on equality. I am afraid it could indeed reflect the prejudice against the traditional tango and the attempt to change tango to a gender-neutral dance in Europe and North America. We fight for the rights of those who are uneasy with their sex orientations, and we should, because they are human beings, too. But most of us do not have problems with our own genders. Most men that I know are happy with their manhood and masculinity, and they behave, function and dance like men. Most women that I know are happy with their womanhood and femininity, and they behave, function and dance like women. Men and women are equal and attractive to each other because of who they are. They appreciate, cherish, need, and complement each other. Women bear and nurse offspring. Men protect and provide for them. They play different roles in life and dance, which nobody, certainly no modern men and women, should feel ashamed of. True modern people do not think that women should act like men in order to be equal with men. They can be women, and still be equal with men. True modern people believe that the relationship between men and women is love-based and not power-based. They do not regard decent intimacy between the opposite sexes as filthy, and they are not chauvinistic, especially toward a people whose art they are deeply indebted to, and whose culture they may not yet fully comprehend.
As I said in another post, “The idea of tango is to welcome another person into your personal space, to accept that person, to surrender, to let go your ego, to listen to the inner voice and feelings of that person, to be considerate, cooperative, yielding and adaptive, to enjoy the intimacy, to be one with that person, and to give comfort, pleasure and love. It is a different idea from what our culture stands for, that is, individualism, independence, self-interests and aggression.” (The Art of Love) Contrary to what the author thinks, the surrender in tango is mutual. It is in surrender that we stop to compete and start to adapt. Tango becomes popular in the modern world because it has the power to sublimate people. It completes us by allowing us to be one with each other in an intimate relationship void of judgmental criticisms of the last century. Tango is the opposite of hypocrisy. In tango we become better, healthier, more natural and cohesive men and women. Those who prefer political correctness to decent humanity, gender neutralization to gender emancipation, power struggle to love, separation to cohesion, distance to intimacy, egoism to humility, and individuality to partnership live in the shadow of the past. They are evolving at a different pace from that of Latin America, and not in the same direction as the author thought. They certainly do not represent the future of tango.